You and your cohorts. someone, you want to not only know about who they are, but who they I won't mind the number of partners if she is physically attracted to me. Its like buying a car with 1,000,000 miles on the odometer lol!!! They are also more secure with the idea that if one relationship ends they can easily find another. And since passing on your genes is the most important thing, he is attracted to women most able to get pregnant. If the guy hasn't had that many partners, then it might be an issue. In fact our sex life is BLAZIN hot because we both have so many tricks and we are both so open to try new things. The vagina is made to accommodate different sizes. I hope you come in awareness. Sleeping around might be related to testosterone in both sexes. I am not a whore or a slut. Well at least the second one could get justified by necessity Would you marry a prostitute? Who you allow inside yourself matters. You just got the best husband around! He controls himself. The West is the last, civilized group that needs to comment Im 25 and have been with at least 20 different partners however that number does not define my character. The wear and tear should be the same from sleeping with 100 different men as sleeping with one man 100 times. If you are 30 and you had sex with 30 people, its hard to accept, But what we all know is that everyone has a past. the sluttier a woman is the less loyal she is and less stable the marriage will be. Embrace who she is today and enjoy it. The girl you date is not concerned about cooking for you. I take strength that it takes strength to deal with this and will hopefully make me a better more compassionate person in the end. it just kills me that women be the main one judging other women. All I am saying in the article is that who she once was isnt always who she is now. If she's interested, there's clearly no problems from her end. Im happy to be settled down now. A woman who have slept with a hundred man might b stretched to her limit physically and a man who has slept with a hundred women might just lose his fervour in d bedroom physical and mentally as well. Hey Mike. And when your whore whoops I meant wife has a flashback during intercourse and screams calls out Kobe just know, she not cheering for the Lakers. As of today a lot of women in late teens and 20's are in a "hoe stroll" and this article in just another trash it makes them have a reason / justifying their action. I cannot think of any psychologist orNeurologistwho would argue that humans actions have no weight on themselves or their behavior let alone mental health. lol Its cool man, I can see where somebody could view it as that. Past DOES matter. no. of your own lifestyle before you start handing out nasty questions or comments such as the one above. Don't you think maybe someone with a little more experience could help you? As simple as that, why be ashamed or beat yourself up over a number if numbers didnt define a hoe then her actions would. Hah! Religions throughout the world encourage multiplying.and theyre not talking about the female having many children. too many people: Remember that there is a good chance your lover feels guilty Im sick of the who are we to judge mentality.. We judge very often. Its useful to be willing to be flexible about things in a relationship, to reconsider your views and desires and try new things. Not too many women want a man that other women dont want. Right now though, I really do not think that the problem is the girl, or the potential relationship itself even. I mean you right we shouldnt judge by tha way Im a lady but come on get real please no matter wat you say a woman first of all sleeping with over 20+ men shouldnt expect to be in a healthy good relationship with a man who hasnt slept around like she does this article is ridiculous for real cause you didnt mention that a woman should be a woman and have respect for her body and self-respect as a woman period. I continued to live. Typically, people do not cheat simply because they are accustomed to being promiscuous (or have been in the past). First, I asked her what she thought. Im 24 and I know better than that it dont matter wat happened to her its not an excuse to just sleep with a gang of men thats very un lady like and for a woman to do that is setting herself up to get a f*****g std. But how will explain Him away on that terrifying, yet, Glorious Day when you actually do meet Him face to face? She had sex .. Study other animals the female usually has more sex than the male. Thank you, Lord, for resurrecting from the dead. If you arent proud of your number when I asked by a potential life partner, you could be a slut. Trust me I completely understand that most of us would prefer our partners didnt have active sex lives prior to being with us. What an a**! Statistics do not lie. If a woman was promiscuous and had sex with numerous men, she was a bad mate choice due to the fact that he may be mistakenly wasting his resources raising another mans child(ren). Some of them are alright but it seems like some sleazy fucking dudes thrown into the mix. Sometimes its just not about judgement of the person its about hurting a future partners feelings. According to studies the chance of divorce strongly correlates Continue Reading Lawrence C. FinTech Enthusiast, Expert Investor, Finance at Masterworks Updated Thu experience with this subject: I have been single for about a year twice in my If they have, you dont know the type of past this woman has had such as entering prostitution when she was young for various reasons, seeking validation from men through sex at a young age (especially if shes been sexually abused or has father issues) or because she has no problem with satisfying her sexual needs which we do have. What I noticed about these two women as well as my female friends and colleagues is that women who have had a large number of sexual partners often have different values and a different outlook onrelationship behaviorthan those that have not. Its just a choice u made and a chance you took. You can love sex without being a slut. Its not a try, its simply a fact. Women want a guy who wants a woman to love and respect herself to value a We all have issues, so we have no right to be so quick to judge, and look down on others for their perceived issue. Or why jobs do background checks or the existence of credit scores. But also it could be my way of redirecting these thoughts gently as you've put it. Amen brother. Fourth, I work globally. She came clean with me (after wewere together)during a deep conversation. I wish more people could or would at least try to entertain or understand that our history does not have to dictate the future. Thats a load of crap! Eventually we grew apart because she was ready to start a family and I was not. In addition, it is this same attitude that gets these alpha men in trouble because they end up holding women to a pedestal that she could never maintain nor would any self respecting woman try to. Some women can have a very low number and be as emotionally damages (if not more) then other women with a much higher number. The reality is that many people marry for the wrong reasons. THATS WHY YOU CANT ADMIT IT. I am 31 years Disagreeing is a part of life and I completely understand people will not always agree with my perspective. She informed methat she had sex with over 30 men. 2,105 posts. I hit the cutoff line at 5 MAX. What should matter is if she is STD free. and dont forget life is a stinky bitch, you call your friend in your house and he happened to be one of your wifes exes. That's pretty low for a guy". And generally, its women that are exploited yet praised, used and then ridiculed for being sensual, sexual, whole human beings not the men. problem for other potential people you fall for, IF youre lucky and fall for Everyone has different tastes. Dont assume her personality/morality based on her sexual history. Not just with them, but with you. We cannot allow people to think "I can do whatever I want because people can't judge me anyway" because that promotes this view of doing and thinking wild things simply because you can get away with it. I dont see how this article will have women single and lonely. Then, my sweet little friend, I would suggest you do a thorough SELF-examination. What would Jesus do? I prefer to be judged for my choices if avoiding judgment is going to condemn me to a life of misery next to a piece of trash. It matter amd why I dont see my damn comment I posted on here about thisarticle? They either find out later and it becomes a big issue, or they never find out but its those secrets that at times manifest into other issues. on the lookout for new sex partners, because they dont value physical There is much I could say as to the real reasons why many men, possibly such as yourself, cannot deal with a woman who may have once been promiscuous in her past. Id like to think that we live in a liberated, sex-positive society where people understand that people have sex and ITS A HUMAN THING, not only a man-thing or a woman-thing. I often think about the young ladies who were sexually abused in the youth, or who were taught sex is the only way to love or keep someone. honestly your vagina doesnt really strech out till you have a baby. Get urself checked and keep ur pants on before u question her!!! Hallelujah!!! Good luck. I feel if we allow ourselves to be more open, honest, and loving in our approach then we can see much better results. You can say no, no, no as much as you like and deny up and down till youre blue, but that still doesnt get the idea about a woman, out of a mans mind. If you are prepared to be the man she needs, and you have a genuine connection with her, then all that other stuff really does not matter. So when a woman just gives it away for free rather than making men work for it, she is viewed in a less favorable light. You dont know where to begin, because you have nothing to say, and deep down, you know Im right. Shame on you all. I definitely would not marry a woman who has slept around a lot. I was totally promiscuous in the years between my junior year of high school and my first year and a half of college, sleeping with as many men as would opportunity present, which came to total around eight. I feel like I have generally improved on processing my thoughts and emotions and have seen positives in being more communicative with her as of late so I agree with you there. In my opinion that would be the better approach that can produce better results. Well sir, my past should not matter. love you back! Are you worried that you're bad at sex and she'll know because she's had more experience? Choosing to have however many partners you want does not mean that you do not have self respect. I'd like to believe the girls I'm seeking hold value to themselves and know what they are worth, unlike my current girlfirend sadly. Much like you are forcing the woman in your life to do, would you rather start out a relationship based on a lie? Very good point, I may have to edit the post and throw that in somewhere : ). Even though maybe I shouldnt call them ignorant since I dont know them but in my opinion everyone is ignorant in some type of way. It did Fast Stream 2023 (Reinstated) applicants thread. I understand some of your arguements. Yall need to start doing some research and stop sleeping around. I was like this guy is a genius, supporting whorish ways but I understand you completely. EXACTLY and guess what: YOU ARE BEING JUDGED for having the wrong amount! Thus conconcluding in divorce. So happy for you. It tells men to be skinny jean wearing pussies (the opposite of what women really want) and women to be whores and sluts (who no man will ever commit to). Love your post ur so real thanks dude not some fake that write stuff as if they are all dat holy. I have actually come My life was so hard because of my sexual freedom so I want her life to be much easier than mine and easier would be for me to teach her to not express her sexuality and to just hold out as long as possible. There is simply so much that goes along with the number. Hm why is it that a woman can have sex with 50 men and have all of them ejaculate in her and expect possibly only 1 life in the world in a year AND NOT KNOW WHO THE FATHER IS! I never went out to get laid. These women get raped abused and have stupid parents who dont pay close enough attention when raising little girls. 2. panophobic. I confronted her about it and she responded the number was 5. So lets say you meet a woman and start to date her. Using the number of sexual partners as one proxy for how someone views sexuality, intimacy, and as insight into part of their value-system iscompletelyrational and reasonable. Eh. Macho-ism still exists. Amen brother. I am already spoken for. Do you feel it is because she has cheated in the past or because she doesn't have to be in a relationship to sleep with a guy? 151 views, 6 likes, 8 loves, 22 comments, 4 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Miller Memorial Baptist Church: Sunday, February 26, 2023~ Reverend. Anyway, enough of that. I do not believe I will continue with my girlfriend as I've found other options who do have problems like everybody else but however don't carry such a burden like my current girl. (sorry so long lol just trying to get you the most info). Somebody who DIDNT want that, ever. Again, you say the past shouldnt matter. Its a reality of biology. I wouldnt want you to spoil any future postings and have you divulge any top secret information on my behalf. If my friends or people mention hey, that girl your with, my mates have hooked up with her multiple times, shes a bit of a slut. Bianca, why in the world would you think the number of men you have slept with should not matter? I wonder how many marriages would last if they really even knew. Just because some girls have girlfriend and some compromise that all sleep. It seems that its not the case. He walked away. Im dont want the mother of my children, the single person out of all of humanity that I choose to share the rest of my life with to have been used and ridden like the town bike. Some people are stricter hide ourselves in does not preclude that: it is a make or break answer. If i have to move out of town or state just so I dont have to deal with her many past smashes, then it aint worth it! During one of those sex talks, it was revealed that she had been with TWO GUYS at one time for a total of three encounters (about a month before we met). Wow! Never trust someone who doesnt change within those 10 years. (tongue in cheek). Whatever. This girl helped open my eyes to all sorts of fun ideas in and out of the bedroom. Do you think she Will she affected by my departure? insert kylo ren meme here. THIS IS LIFE. Its like seeing a movie, all is in the past. People rarely change. Im always honest with him about everything but this is the one thing Im taking to the grave. What non practical thing are you buying with your maintenance loan first. Personally, I think that men and women should strive to have a lower number of sexual partners but I don't think that women should try to act like men in the thinking that having numerous partners is a good thing. "Women tend to be more unhappy with the relationship they are in . 1. 21. Only how he chooses to receive that number will things now change. We live in a constant honeymoon cause we are very sexual. In this life, moral responsibility will offer you far, far more than even being able to regain what you may have lost, even following reconciliation. As I've tried to read about the concept of dating a slut I have been unable to find any success stories about someone who has dated a slut long term but I have found a lot of mostly red pill stuff that has said it is a bad idea. What if a person did poorly in the 9th grade, hell they flat out failed. I feel there is a price that is paid for the way you are choosing to approach this issue, but nothing I can say will convince you otherwise. Wild oats = sewn. Come back and continue to live. Ive been with one man-my ex-husband. And she is ten times prettier with larger breasts and better complected, better hair, better teeth, more intelligent, etc His wife would feel intimidated and feel she can not compete especially if the other woman dumped him and he had been in love with her. He thinks I was listening the whole time." Erin. I've just been pulled super fucking deep into this r/seduction stuff albeit not too much into this red pill stuff. Common sense. the point is about understanding that who someone once was isnt always who they are now. To judge them is just wrong and unfair. Why? Lol youre an idiot. Do you think that I can take her seriously? Most married men dont even know their wives past and they are living a Lie. So it isnt the actual number that really matters, it is what her behaviors displays due to her experiences or for whatever reason. Ive seen friends go through 4+ relationships in a year. I just figured that if some of these ignorant people want to judge people they dont know Id give them a short and specific story. IT SHOWS TOOI PREFER TO OFFER MY FUTURE SPOUSE A TIGHT POCKET BOOK NOT A BUCKET. Having slept with others casually certainly doesn't mean that someone will cheat. We all have pasts things we aren't proud of who she was isn't who she is. In my opinion, it kinda shows what type of person you are and how much respect you have for yourself. I will respect your point of view, however, as a blogger of a highly controversal and relevant subject you should try to put yourself at our vantage point as well: in a time where mens rights are routinely violated by the judicial and family court system, A LOT (not all) divorces are initiated by women who have had affairs outside of the marriage. I think that sex is not the big factor of life, as a matter of fact I know sex is not the big factor of life. Unless you are interested in being swingers, your best bet would be to only get involved with someone who has a solid sense of morality. I dont think u r being objective. It's difficult as society has been telling me for years to avoid relationships with girls like this. A slut is a slut. It is the best indicator of who someone actually isyou knowhow theyve actually led their life. That will not change because of Americas pseudo progressive culture. Granted, I still think one should be cautious when deciding to pursue a relationship with someone who has a promiscuous past, making sure that that phase of their life is over. Whether you question it or not is irrelevant. Altamera74, from a chicks point of view, you are going to end up a very sad and lonely man if you take that sort of attitude into your life when it comes to choosing a partner.. Plenty of respectable women do not live their youths as sluts, and it is THESE women who deserve our time, investment, and energies; not the sluts. Though there may be a difference in how/what constitutes standard for the individual. I completely understand where you are coming from Kabdog but I have to respectfully disagree. And know that there will be days your not overwhelmed in thought. See I then made the mistake of going through all of her old emails and weve talked about it alot it never makes me feel any better about it just worse to be honest to know the things shes done, now shes a mom, we have a baby together and it kind of taints the whole thing. Why must women be held to an higher standard than men? The only position here is dont let the past stop you from receiving and embracing your blessings. What do her previous partners have to do with who she is today? Good luck!! You will marry a handsome pediatrician! But once you get into the booty call territory, or some other lines of just having sex with men because it is satisfying makes men look at you cynically. Not wanting a woman with a dicey past doesnt make a man some self righteous, hypocritical, judgmental monster. Your source was concerned with the myth of high rate of divorce in general, and was not studying the relatively high incidences of higher divorce amongst women with more sexual partners. So, for me the number of sex partners she had would not be an issue at all. No dice. I AM SORRY, AS WOMENWE MUST HOLD OURSELVES TO HIGHER STANDARDSWHEN WE BEGAN TO LOSE OUR MORALS AND ACT LIKE MEN IS WHEN WE STARTED TO BE MORE LIKELY TO GET SHOT THAN MARRIED. This is such a typical question. Should the number of men she has slept with really help determine if a man should be with a specific woman? All that energy goes to personal projects or commuter games. Thats roughly a new guy each month. The amount of partners a person chooses to share themselves with sexually reflects on that persons character and values. If you are a man with 3 children with 3 different mothers, there is something wrong. And guess what? She's not who she's going to be, young women can be very insecure. I love this article! And there is no one besides Him. Aside from STDs, I don't see anything worth mentioning. You need both to function but then again so do women. We have had this conversation. 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